Help Me See the Need

These days, with social media and technology, it’s easy to confuse number of connections with depth of relationship. We settle for social gatherings full of small talk, consistent interactions on Facebook, and quick work conversations to fill us up. But settling for these kinds of relationships over deep relationships is like eating a bag of chips when you’re hungry for a meal. The chips may curb your hunger for the moment, but you will be hungry again.  Yet, we settle for these kinds of superficial relationships over and over again and wonder why we feel so lonely. Anxiety and depression are at an all time high in teens and young adults. We have to wonder if the width of connection may be replacing depth of connection and how that replacement is affecting our mental and spiritual health. We were made for the kind of connection that the Trinity models for us. The Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are in perfect unity. They are committed to one another and in perfect community with one another. If we were made in the image of the Trinity, we were made to reflect this kind of beautiful community with one another. This doesn’t mean that we have to invest in every single person in our lives. Even Jesus didn’t invest in more than twelve people. He had relationships with more than twelve, but he gave himself to the twelve and heavily invested in three within that twelve. Jesus modeled for us the impact of unyielding commitment to a few friends. Jesus revealed parts of himself to these three that he didn’t to the rest, like in the Garden of Gethsemane (Matthew 26:36-37) and on a mountaintop during his transfiguration (Matthew 17:1-2). If we want committed relationships in our lives, it starts with looking to Jesus and following his example with others in our lives. Reflection/Discussion Question: How does thinking about the community within the Trinity help you think differently about your own community?

In today’s world of “Churchianity”, it’s easy to place the name of Jesus on a lot of rituals and beliefs that have nothing to do with truly loving Jesus. We’ve gotten so good at doing church that we believe “doing church” is synonymous with loving Jesus. We have settled for a life of going through the motions in place of a life marked by the love of Jesus. We are more concerned with whether or not we liked the worship songs than we are with submitting ourselves in worship to God. We are more concerned with whether or not the sermon inspired us enough than we are with turning our eyes to the truth of God’s Word. We busy ourselves with volunteering in the same spot every Sunday, rather than pursuing the lost people in our midst. We would rather settle for “Churchianity” than full submission to Jesus. We think that loving Jesus is a warm feeling in our heart while living our lives relatively the same, but Jesus won’t settle for this imitation. In Luke 9, Jesus says, “No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God” (NIV). If we are committing to Jesus, we are committing to taking up our own cross and dying, daily. We are committing to gripping the plow and not looking back.  Jesus wasn’t just a nice guy with good advice on how to live our lives — Jesus is the savior of the world. He defeated sin and death and calls us to be ministers of his love to the rest of the world. To love Jesus is to live the same kind of radically sacrificial life that he lived when he walked on this earth. Reflection/Discussion Question: Are your definition of loving Jesus and Jesus’s definition of loving him the same?

Waitresses are usually that faceless person who scribbles down your order and you never give them a second thought. We rarely go to our local restaurant but last night we went to dinner. We recognized our waitress from a long time ago. We exclaimed our happiness to see her again. It had been 1.5 years. Later after our check, I asked about her story and how was she affected by our wildfire in 2020? She was able to talk about how scary it was in the 50 mph winds and crashing trees. The evacuation and having to leave the cat behind. Her neighbors house burned down, but after 1 month evacuation, she found her house still standing. It is very healing to be amble to talk about the experience. We told her our fire story and how God has always been faithful and will continue to provide for us even in our uncertain house situation. We all were grateful how God always cares for us in every situation. We gave her a double tip to bless her day.

I have a friend at work and she isnt a Christian while I am recently born again. I have been trying to subtly bring her to Jesus and invite her to church. A couple weeks ago one of my churchleaders gave me the money she got from the church and while I didnt need the money I think God knew how I was struggling with my anxiety and depression and sent her to me to let me know that someone cares. It was a moment where I didnt know what I needed until it was given to me. I didnt want to just spend it so I have been carrying it with me everywhere so I could also pass it to someone who needed it. I came into work today and she was in a bad mood upset about a lot of things that have not been going her way and I felt like in that moment I was told to give it to her. So I explained how it had come to me and while she may not need it to pay for anything I wanted her to know that someone out here cares and that God still loves her.